tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13890767.post988148589634863567..comments2023-05-16T02:38:23.270-07:00Comments on and they say poetry is dead...: Listening...Sharellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911932413463248849noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13890767.post-79550697700338039212010-06-03T09:23:25.135-07:002010-06-03T09:23:25.135-07:00Oh Sharelle, good one.
I’ve been thinking a lot ab...Oh Sharelle, good one.<br />I’ve been thinking a lot about this one lately, in less defined terms, but from the other side: as the person on the receiving end of all the advice (welcomed or not). All I can say, is that you’re right: say something (if your friend is talking to you about it, likely they want to know what you think), but do it "in love and with a lot of caveats". And then after you’ve said your bit, give some MORE love. The most important part in all of it though, is that you assume the person you’re talking to already knows what you’re talking about. That old familiar “wow, I’m being judged” feeling comes fastest when the speaker acts like they know more than everyone else. So humility, grace, and love. All three, and your friend won’t feel judged, they will feel that you are being humble, gracious, and loving :) <br /><br />At the end of the day though, sometimes your friend might not want to hear it. I’ve been in that situation before too, recognizing that while I knew that person would regret their choices, they didn’t want to listen to anyone who would advise them otherwise. SO I think in that case you wait until they’re ready to be loved again, and go love them.<br /><br />Sharelle, you’re an amazing friend, a beautiful person, and someone who (in my opinion) knows how to genuinely love others. You are also someone with sweet insights, you are intelligent & delightful. That being said, share yourself with the people around you – we’ll love you for it.afterthoughtcomposerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813736275371156038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13890767.post-57693562670957867442010-06-02T19:10:04.960-07:002010-06-02T19:10:04.960-07:00It's not that this isn't an excellent post...It's not that this isn't an excellent post - it is and we're going to have to have more conversations about this question - but I need to comment first on this picture: it is many kinds of fabulous. Well selected.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00178602503884415570noreply@blogger.com